How To Do Your Good Work, Better

Imagine you’re in the middle of a conversation. It’s going well. The person in front of you is opening up and it feels like they are starting to trust you. You say “tell me more” or “say more”. Suddenly, it feels like the air has been sucked out of the room.

What happened?

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This Is The Most Effective Way to Deal With Challenging Clients

Challenging clients don't trust you.

It may not be not be personal. Your clients may not trust the system that you represent. (Because you do represent a system or institution, whether you like it or not.) It may be the "healthcare system", for example, that they distrust or any another large, powerful institution. Whatever it is, people act out in challenging ways because they don't feel safe in the "care" that their institution offers.

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3 BIG Reasons Why You Should NOT Use the ACE Questionnaire

I am often asked if I would recommend an organization using the ACE Questionnaire. Generally folks are asking because they are interested in screening for trauma in some way. Which is so fabulous! The question is a great one. But here's why using the ACE questionnaire is not a good idea.

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