One reason you might say "yes" is that you worry about being asked again. Will the ask come again if you say "no"? A better question might be: “do you really want to do _____” anyway?
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Why Pausing Feels Impossible
But the pause is not only not easy, it isn't valued. Doubling down, however, is valued and it’s what we learn to do. But is that really the best course, especially when you’re frustrated and things aren’t going as planned. Maybe not.
Making Better Parenting Decisions
We know we can’t save our kids from everything but as trauma survivor parents, we sure do want to try. But some of our biggest obstacles to parenting for autonomy and resilience are guilt, fear and shame. How do we manage a trauma history and parent our kids in a way that helps them be their best selves? Strategies instead of reactions are one place to start.
Richard Branson and Making Better Choices
A few years back, I saw a post on LinkedIn with a quote from Richard Branson. It went like this, "if someone offers you the chance to do something, take it. Worry about how later on." In other words, don't hesitate, grab! At one time in my life, I would have agreed.